Monday, March 4, 2013


I don't want to just share the thoughts that are in my head.... I want to be a catalyst for change in peoples lives.

That is it.
My Life's Goal.

  • In my family
  • In my job
  • In my circle of friends

Leaders have to be careful, people are watching our every move. Someone who is effective, is active in the process of leading. It's not about telling others what to do or pontificating.

Leading is an action, a verb. It's pushing people to be the best that they can be, to recognize their strengths, and to stop comparing themselves to others.

I'm sure you've heard "It's not about you"... and it really isn't, but it's also not about everyone else you are pointing your finger at and trying to tear down. Turn the finger back around and improve on yourself.

If you can swing the Titanic in the direction of self reflection, you will have a great team. If you can't, then maybe you need to put some people on a life boat and send them on their way, because if you don't, you are going down! Get the right people on the team, help them see their potential, put them in a place where their gifts can best be used and that Titanic will steer far away from the ominous iceberg that is hiding in the darkness.

The down side.... the Titanic is a big massive hunk of steel, that is heavy and hard to steer. So, no one ever said (at least in my experience) that this was going to be easy. Life is a journey, not a destination. Self actualization will NOT be achieved until we meet our maker. Leading is a process of continuous improvement.

As I lead my team, and strive for my Life's goal, I vow to:

1) Continuously look for ways to improve myself.
2) Set clear goals for myself and my team.
3) Help others reach their potential in a non-threatening way.
4) Reflect on what we as a team have accomplished and what we still need to do.
5) Share my experiences and my teams experiences with others.

Thursday, February 21, 2013

My Life in Ombre'


Not to be confused with Ombre (pronounced Omber) which is an old three-handed card game popular in Europe especially in the 17th and 18th centuries (per Webster and his dictionary).

What I am talking about is having color tones that shade into each other. I've seen it in clothing this season, hair, art, home d├ęcor, even the jello at work last weekend was Ombre'.

Ombre' cookies!

Ombre' Walls!


Ombre' Hair!

                                    Ombre' Cake.... these are so cute!!!!
Everything around me is turning Ombre'!
I often wonder how or who starts these trends. Someone in Hollywood, no doubt, had a hair color disaster and tried to make the best of it. Remember in the 90's when you dyed your hair and your roots grew out and you didn't go back in to have them dyed again, it was considered trashy and cheap? Now it's called OMBRE' !
So what is Ombre'? Is it some wishy washy shade of color?
"I don't know whether I want to be light or dark so I'll be both and every shade in between." said the color Blue.
I think many of us are Ombre' and we don't even know it. Perhaps that's part of the issue with society today and the generations we are raising. We can't make a decision about who we are, what we believe, or what we want to do. So we do it all and every shade in between.
That sure sounds like my life. While I've never been accused of being monochromatic, ombre' might be fitting with it's orderly progression of color. I want my life to be orderly.
Although, I don't know that I can thrive in anything but chaos.
I'm a future thinker, I love thinking of all the possibilities that lie ahead of me.
 I love change and find it exciting to take new paths in life.
I love to fly by the seat of my pants.
"Wing and a prayer"
Is that the way God wants me to live?
So I swing to the other side by taking on super duper responsibilities.
Working two jobs, being Super Nurse!
Putting a side my family time, and my artistic time, and my God time.
Is there a happy medium? A way to find balance?
Am I just totally missing the point that God is trying to club me over the head with? 
Maybe Ombre' is not so bad after all.

Wednesday, February 20, 2013


New read for me: Unglued.

I come unglued on a daily basis. I think sometimes that I actually live unglued, or in some state of unglued, as if unglued is on a continuum. SO when I was invited to be part of a women's bible study that was studying the book called "Unglued", I said "sure, why not."

This weeks lesson focused on labels we give ourselves that keep us stuck. I can't help but think of the way I have kept myself stuck for the last 7 years. I have actually asked God why he has kept me here. I know it is something I have to learn or grow or be refined by. I have been on the look out for what God is doing, missed opportunities to be free of this prison of trappedness. But the harder I try, the harder it gets.

So what is it that I am trapped by....I have labeled myself a bad mom.

Bad mommy label includes:
1) divorce times 2
2) working fulltime
3) tired ALL of the time.
4) self-inflicted guilt because I'm a bad mom
5) not giving my children enough attention
6) not going to church or taking them because I ALWAYS work weekends! But I'm trapped there because of the money.

My solution:
1) work more hours to pay off bills so eventually I don't have to work so hard.
2) ignore my husband because he is not helping the problem to begin with.
3) be hateful to everyone because I'm working my a** off and everyone needs to just leave me alone while I get through this!

Gods solution:(according to "Unglued")
1) Stop listening to the lies that are meant to tear me down.
2) View the circumstance as a CALL TO ACTION! Not a call to beat myself up.
3) Use the momentum of tackling one label to tackle more.

All of this adds up to Grace.

Sin didn't, and doesn't have a chance with the aggressive forgiveness we call grace. When it's sin versus grace, grace wins hands down!!!!
Romans 5:20 The Message