Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Ignorant Bliss

I often wonder lately why I can't just live in what I call "ignorant bliss". Or maybe it's called denial, but denial means that you're aware of something, but choose not to face it. Ignorant bliss is more of the "what you don't know can't hurt you" mind set.

As I look around at people, I realize that most of us have some sort of dysfunction in our lives. And most of the people I observe are able to just go on living in it without even acknowledging that they have issues. I wish I could put on the denial lenses and get on with my life. But if I do that, I am only living partially up to my potential, and well, dysfunction is exhausting! I've tried that route before, and when the scales are tilted and unbalanced, it can be exhausting for the person carrying the heavier load. It comes down to each individual taking responsibility for themselves, and expecting it from each other.

That's what grown ups do..... "A mature, complete adult not only takes responsibility for himself, but also requires the same from the people he loves" ~Henry Cloud.

It can be painful to hear the truth from someone you love. It can be painful to hold the person you love accountable. At times it's not easy to take responsibility for ourselves, and sometimes it's even harder to set the limits needed to help someone we love take responsibility for themselves.

Growth is never without some pain.

Wounds from a sincere friend
are better than many kisses from an enemy. Proverbs 27:6

1 comment:

  1. mmmm.. Proverbs has so much freakin wisdom!

    No pain, no gain.

    Got that right.